I had this bumper sticker printed up years ago and handed them out for free to anyone willing to take one. While it still makes me laugh, I also consider it a very important question. It’s a little like hearing someone complain about whiners. Not only are they joining in with the same crowd they are trying to distance themselves from, now they’re center stage. I think this is why we should “Love thine enemy as thyself.”
If tolerance is what we want to project, are we not obligated to turn this attitude towards those who receive it the least? When mankind experiences pain somewhere in its “body” shouldn’t this demand care and healing? We seem to point towards what isn’t working in our society and do our best to fight it rather than help it. We praise that which is already doing well and insult what isn’t functioning properly. In my opinion this attitude is destructive and immoral.
No one wants to be around a hypocrite. People that do this are fooling themselves into believing that by putting everyone else down, they don’t have to work at doing anything to look good. We witness this unethical “sleight-of-hand” all the time in various incarnations. The “I’m right and everyone else is wrong” syndrome is, unfortunately, very common. “No one does what I tell them to do” equals “I’m perfect, they’re flawed.” “No one comes up with better solutions than me” equals “I’m brilliant and they’re stupid.” “Others don’t do nearly as much work as me” equals “I’m productive, they’re useless.” “Everyday I fight bad drivers on the way to work” equals “I’m courteous, they’re rude.” All of these are hypocritical attitudes. No one is perfect. This is not a generalized judgment; I simply mean that there is always room for improvement. The trap of thinking you’re beyond reproach is to invite a lifestyle that will convince itself there’s no need for progress. Those who try to position themselves into a brighter spotlight by negative promotion lose all credibility. They don’t realize their audience is instinctively aware that they’re unwilling to become better.
I would love to think I am past this kind of behavior but I’m not. On occasion I catch myself playing the victim. My moments of “poor me” are a lot less pronounced than they used to be, but at least I have the ability to recognize them. This “role” leaves a bitter taste, I assure you. I’ve learned there are countermeasures for this habit.
- I stop trying to be better than the rest of the crowd, I simply commit to being better than I used to be.
- My personal standards are far beyond what others expect of me.
- I acknowledge where talent lies. When I’m seen as someone who gives credit where credit is due, I notice people are more eager to work as a team. Everyone wants some sort of recognition for their contributions. Sometimes nothing more than a “Thank You” makes all the difference, especially when it’s done in public. I know it does for me.
I think it’s amazing just how many don’t do this. It’s too bad that the ones who do this stand out so prominently. They are a rare breed; I wish they weren’t.
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With Love and Compassion, Daniel Andrew Lockwood
Thank you for the reply. I still struggle with this as I’ve said, but it’s nice to know the initial reflex can be diffused. I think ego’s goal is to stand out IN the crowd, The goal of humility is to stand out OF the crowd. From this position I feel it’s easier to see everyone as equals rather than rivals.
Very interesting point. I’ve never thought of how to not be prejudice step by step. Very profound I am glad to have read it
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